4 | ROBERTA M. DAMON REFLECTING WhathealingwouldyourequestofJesusifyoufoundyourselfphysically in his presence? You must know people who are like the ruler of the synagogue in this story. Who are they? How have they wounded you? Are they likely to ask your forgiveness? If they never ask you for forgiveness, how will you deal with them? How do you define yourself? From what source comes your identity? What makes you able to hold your head up? Make a list of reasons to rejoice.